Our friends and neighbors don’t need our “how-to” as much as they need “me too.” They want to be reassured that the feelings they have and they failures they’ve experienced are not unusual, nor are they fatal. There is grace, and tomorrow is a new day.Read More
Gone are the lights, the food, the songs, the parties, and the gifts. The sense of something shared by the whole community has slipped away and the disconnect returns.
But we don’t need to feel alone or abandoned if we remember the Christ of Christmas. His name is Immanuel - God with us. He did not come for a season. He came to stay.Read More
I realized that I have developed a habit of dwelling on hurts and conflicts. I allow an argument from 7:00 to live on in my mind, so that it spoils 7:30, 8:00, 8:30 and beyond.
Too many times, I take my sulking one step farther and behave based on my ‘how I’ve been wronged’ script. Even if I’m not talking, my message at these times is loud and clear, “You are in charge of my level of peace or contentment today. Your choices determine how I act. You can be the boss of me.”
Am I defined by what I do?
When I am able to do less, am I worth less?Read More
This kind of beautiful has a different magnetism. The women who have nurtured it carry the confidence of an identity that cannot be taken away by the years or by the shallow evaluation of others. To those who have spent any time with them, these women are irresistible, because they have the gift of helping others feel beautiful too.
When life hurts, how do we approach Thanksgiving? Or respond to all the “happy, grateful, blessed” signs and T-shirts we see online and in stores? How do we thank a God who has let life hurt us?Read More
As I look into the eyes and listen to the words of other women, I think many of us are emptying our baskets too soon. We each want to make a difference in our corner of the world. At first, we think we have more than enough to offer to everyone. Generously, eagerly, we give away our time, our ideas, our organizational skills, our knowledge… until suddenly there is little or nothing left.Read More
There is not one thing we can walk through that Jesus doesn’t share. The pain, sorrow, and loneliness that come our way touch him too. After giving his very life for us, he sent his Spirit to empower us. That means his presence with us is a fact. No matter what.Read More
Though we know better, we want to brush on a quick coat of personality to fix the problem. How wonderful it would be if we could scatter a few laughs or a couple of kind gestures like throw pillows, and freshen up our relationships. It would be a breeze if we could change a behavior or two, and launch the updated version of ourselves without a hitch. But, like it or not, the groundwork can’t be skipped. There is heart work to be done.Read More
As we focus on all that we need to do, we forget that the glory is in what we become or help others become. Because we are part of God’s family, we have a role in the family business.Read More
David was moved by gratitude to think about God’s character and motives. Sadly, the occasions that lead to my questions about God reveal a very different attitude. When I ask questions it’s not really about needing answers, but about demanding my way.Read More
My response to what was outside my house was based on the condition of what was inside my house - the windows. Isn't it the same way with our emotional response to our lives? We miss the beauty that is right in front of us, because the lens we are looking through is not clear.Read More
God invites us to take time to reconnect with him and with one another, and to rediscover the joy of moving at a slower pace. Yes, there is obedience and trust involved in God's direction to take a sabbath. But it is meant to be a gift, not a burden. Rest renews us. Time away from our tasks helps us gain perspective.Read More
As an introvert, I don't always find it easy to break through the barrier between 'stranger' and 'acquaintance', or move from 'customer' to 'friend'. But life sure feels sweeter when I do. Maybe you've observed it too, as you've seen a face brighten when you walk through the door. The simple art of noticing can make all the difference.Read More
There are a lot of situations where a Christ follower should gladly put others first. But when it comes time to take responsibility for a problem, to apologize, or to be willing to improve our attitude, I think we have permission to jump up and say, "Me first!"Read More
We don't have to make headlines to make a difference. And we don't need to look very far for important work to do. Each of us has a ready-made place in the ministry of presence. If you are unsure, ask God to show you who needs your love and care. What feels like a small gesture to meet their need may be the biggest thing you do today.Read More
Our self-images are hostage to the big thumbs-up in the blue circle. If we don’t receive enough of them, we begin to question our performance. This can quickly lead to doubting our value.Read More
Out of the blue on a sunny day, the right (or, really, wrong) combination of conditions can turn things upside down in our world.
Fear grips us as we realize we can’t head off the storm and we can’t outrun it. It will blow through our lives, and at the time we don’t know its strength or the damage it will leave behind.Read More